Have you ever heard this amazing fact??
A new born elephant and fallow deer are able to run with the herd
shortly after birth.
By the age of six week, the baby seal swims the high seas
Yet…human infants remain totally dependent upon their mother or surrogates until at least NINE MONTHS after birth, and even then require SEVERAL MORE YEARS of assistance before achieving total independence.
What an amazing fact that sometimes I did not realize… that to be a real human, someone need trusted adult who provide a safe and protected space for the children within which they can explore the world provisionally before going their own way as mature individuals.
This reflection brings my mind to travel thousand miles away to where I grew up with my parents and family-in my country Indonesia. My mind flashes back to the wonderful time I spent with my parents in a beautiful city of Solo, Central Java. Together with my sister, I grow up with abundance of love and caring, knowing that what our parent wanted for us is nothing but the best…
I remember my favorite quote from Urie Bronfenbrenner- a psychologist, specialist in human development, said about how important is the people around us who love and nurture us until we can be a an independent human. Urie said that :
“Witness the American ideal: the Self-Made Man. But there is no such person. If we can stand on our own two feet, it is because others have raised us up. If, as adults, we can lay claim to competence and compassion, it only means that other human beings have been willing and enabled to commit their competence and compassion to us—through infancy, childhood, and adolescence, right up to this very moment.”
Definitely, my family is the biggest influence in my life. From the very young age, my parents were always tried their best to provide me with the good books or magazine although at time good book were quite rare in my country. At that time when there was no internet connection (well, actually even the telephone was also very rare at that time) the books and magazine were the great sources to quench my curiosity about many things. The books and magazines cultivated my love of reading, opened my eyes that there were many beautiful places around the world, how people live and behave differently…. It nurtured my dreams to see and explore the world….
The world around me has significantly influenced me to become who I am today. The people around me and my surroundings have helped shaped my dreams and aspirations. Here I am now; fulfilling my childhood dreams to visit many different places around the world, and has been years living abroad in Muscat-Oman. Well, being far away from my family in Indonesia and talking about them, now I start to miss them already: my mom, my dad and my sister….but hopefully we’ll meet again next summer holiday!
Now I have my own family, a wonderful husband-Erik, a beautiful daughter-Aubrey and a gorgeous son-Fernando to care.
Together with my husband, I wish that I can do our best to provide our children the best environment to grow; full love and joy… just like a comfortable nest for the little birdie to live and grow…. And I do realize that my relationship with my husband is the great foundation for my children to grow and learn about attachment, love, security…. and relationship stability.
How lucky I am to have a great-wonderful-supportive husband,
my best friend and a great partner in my journey of the pilgrimage of life…
the one that always remind me of this powerful song from Air Supply:
“When the future looks uncertain
You can count on me to be there
And when your heart and soul are hurting
Just look and you’ll see me there
Just follow where I lead
I’ll give you what you need
A love that’s always true
And someone who believes in you”
“It’s an easy thing to do
When I have someone who believes in me’
Thanks to you to my husband, Erik Ferdiansyah
for giving me the world!
I’m everything I am
Because you loved me
Muscat-Sultanate of Oman